Someone who is lazy does not value hard work. He wants to find short cuts, take the easy way out. This is downright un-American. We are a nation of hard-working, innovative, muscle to the grindstone, elbow-grease kind of people. I, however, do not really believe in laziness. In my experience as a therapist, those people who underperform or lack ambition usually have something blocking them from being more productive. Sometimes it is an emotional conflict (like being afraid to grow up), a brain problem (like ADHD, slow processing speed), or a lack of confidence. The Opt-Outs I know were raised by productive, achievement-oriented parents. They understand the value of hard-work and ambition.
However, there are other values that he may lack, and that are crucial to being productive. These include:
- Delaying Gratification
- Taking Risks
- Tolerating discomfort
- Being proactive
Kids who have never been left to struggle for themselves, who have been over-protected, over-indulged, and in a word, over-parented, never learn how to delay gratification or to tolerate discomfort. They develop a dependence on their parents, get used to everything done for them, and never have to take risks, commit, or find the courage within to put themselves out there.Share